and haven’t, since I turned 30.
1. Help them move.
2. Go to their improv comedy shows.
3. Buy them shots.
4. Listen for very long, if the topic of conversation is their relationship with their parents.*
5. Visit their parents’ houses.
6. Let them borrow money.
7. Live with them.
What have I forgotten?
* The exception here are the rising number of conversations I’m having about dying or sick parents, and the financial and practical issues involved. But these conversations are qualitatively different than the “my father doesn’t understand what I do for a living and it makes me feel he doesn’t love me” conversations that dominated my life in my 20s.